The Ultimate Cheat Sheet For Meeting the Love of Your Life

By James Altucher

I had no furniture, I was 20 lbs overweight, no job, depleting bank account, owed the IRS, out of shape, I drank every night, I was separated but not divorced, two kids, depressed and maybe suicidal, and finally, I secretly wanted to be a standup comic.

I also didn’t like being alone. I am the sort of person who likes to be married.

In other words, I was gross, unqualified for anything, an alcoholic, and delusional.

Probably paranoid also since I was constantly getting fired from things at that point, despite saving the world economy in my spare time (sadly, I have to refer you to my book for that story, which is a true story).

I had a table and one chair and I had a sofa. I had no plates in my kitchen. I had a mattress on the floor. That was the extent of my furniture. I had some books.

I sat on that one chair and made it a full time job to find the woman of my dreams.

You may not want to meet the love of your life. You might want to meet the “love of the next six months”. Or…”the love of the next week”. That’s fine also. Nobody can predict the future. I know I am horrible at predicting the future.

This worked for me. Might not work for anyone else.

A) QUANTITY

I saw some article recently, “how to bang a lot of chicks”. That’s not what I mean by quantity. In fact, that’s the opposite of quantity. If anything, if you follow that strategy you will fail.

But for me, since I had been fired by thestreet.com, CNBC was no longer using me, The Financial Times fired me, two businesses I had started were failing, and there was nothing else for me to do: I had plenty of time to sign up for lots of dating sites and send at least 100 messages a day to women.

I would arrange dates for lunch, dinner, whenever. I’d travel 40 miles to go on a date. Some women wanted to talk on the phone. I’d set aside an hour or two a day to talk on the phone.

But nothing really mattered until I met the person.

If you meet ten people you think you are attracted to, you might actually be only attracted to one. The other thing is: given my situation most women didn’t even respond to my messages. So quantity was critical.

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